Quiz: What Are You Really Feeling About End-of-Life?

A gentle reflection for caregivers, family members, and those grieving

End-of-life experiences often bring a complicated mix of emotions. This short quiz isn’t about labeling your grief—it’s about naming what’s already there. Because sometimes, giving feelings language helps us carry them with more grace.

Instructions: Answer each question honestly and gently. Choose the option(s) that feel closest to your current experience.

1. When you think about your loved one’s passing (or the idea of it), what rises to the surface first?

1. I feel deeply sad.

2. I feel exhausted—physically and emotionally.

3. I feel anxious about what happens next.

4. I feel relieved that suffering is (or will be) over.

5. I feel numb—I’m not sure how I feel right now.

2. During their final days or weeks, did you ever catch yourself thinking something like...

• “I just wish it could be over soon.”

• “I hope they’re not in pain anymore.”

• “I feel guilty for wanting this to end.”

• “This doesn’t feel real.”

• “I wish I had said or done more.”

3. Which of these thoughts or feelings have you experienced at some point? (Select all that apply)

• Regret about something I didn’t say or do

• Guilt over how I handled certain moments

• Shame about not grieving the “right” way

• Relief that the caregiving burden is over

• Peace, knowing we did the best we could

4. Have you felt confused by the fact that you’re experiencing more than one of these emotions at once?

• Yes. It’s hard to make sense of how I feel.

• A little. I wasn’t expecting so many mixed emotions.

• No, but it’s helpful to hear this is normal.

• I’ve been avoiding thinking about it altogether.

5. What kind of support would feel good to you right now?

• A quiet space to process

• A conversation with someone who understands

• Validation that my feelings are okay

• Tools to help me move forward

• I’m not sure—but I know I need something

Your Reflection: There’s No Wrong Way to Grieve

If you found yourself selecting more than one answer in each question, you’re not alone.Grief doesn’t follow a formula. It’s often layered, contradictory, and personal. And that’s okay.

Whether you’re actively caregiving, anticipating a loss, or navigating grief after the fact, your experience is valid—even if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

At North Shore Care Management, we’re here to help you carry all the feelings.The ones that make sense. And the ones that don’t.

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